7 Reasons Why She Is Not Crying
7 Reasons…These days, more and more women are seeking the solace of singlehood. They’re throwing away the mentality that they need to “settle down” by a certain age and are perfectly happy being single. They walk into their newfound freedom with boldness and ambition. Here are seven reasons why she’s not crying after the breakup.
There is certainly nothing wrong with a ‘relationship’, even marriage. But it is not as necessary for a woman’s fulfillment as it was once perceived. Women these days are more independent and self-sufficient and much more inclined to walk away from a relationship that no longer serves them, and they do so without the fear of being alone.
1. SHE LOVES HER OWN SPACE
It’s all hers and she doesn’t have to share it with anyone. Her house, her things, her rules. She can “girl up” the décor if she wants to and she doesn’t have to clean up behind anybody but herself. A major part of every relationship is sharing and since women are natural nurturers, we tend to do the majority of sharing and compromising. If she’s single, everything she owns is hers and that’s just the way she wants it.
2. SHE ENJOYS HER FREEDOM
Her life is pretty awesome. She can go where she wants, do what she wants, who she wants, how she wants, whenever she wants to. She doesn’t have any ties to anyone so there’s nothing pulling on her or tripping her up. This is called freedom. The ultimate goal is not to be tied or weighed down by the load of a relationship. She simply enjoys the freedom of doing her.
3. SHE’S LIVING IT UP
The whole “what’s mine is ours” thing is a real downside for women in relationships. Retail therapy is the cure to many of her ills and some women fear that once they start mixing credit cards and bank accounts, they will be expected to be thriftier with their spending. Having her money all to herself also allows her the freedom not to have to answer for every pair of shoes or designer handbag.
4. VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE
What one can’t do; two or three can. Maybe after a long marriage or relationship, she discovers that there really are 31 flavors out there and she’s only tasted two. Variety is indeed the spice that adds flavor to her new single life. On any given night, she can choose something different as if ordering take-out. Want it a little spicy? Order Italian. Want it flaming hot? Get a Rude Boy to quell that hunger. Tall, short, long, lean, she can have it all…and she will, if she pleases.
5. SHE’S DECIDED MARRIAGE IS JUST NOT FOR HER
Contrary to popular belief, not every woman wants to be married. Just as George Clooney has vowed himself to bachelorhood, some women feel the same. It’s not just money that keeps Oprah from marrying Steadman; she loves and values her freedom as well. It may be hard to believe, but there are women out there that are more focused on their careers, children and/or themselves so marriage is not a top priority. Let go of the myth that every woman is trying to trap a man into marriage and grasp the idea that maybe they just don’t want to trap themselves.
6. SHE’S A FREE SPIRIT
She greatly values the peace that comes with her life as a single woman. She enjoys Pilates, free and holistic living, meditation, and the occasional hookah. Balance, spiritual symmetry, inner peace, and stability are all the first things to go in a relationship for a woman with a free spirit. She now feels as if she is confined and this greatly disturbs her inner peace. Maybe she feels as if a relationship would jeopardize her peaceful core and she’s just not willing to risk it.
7. SHE ACTUALLY LIKES “JUST HOOKING UP”
She really likes the idea of no strings attached. Women are extremely sexual creatures and we are now living in a time when it is acceptable for them explore that part of themselves. Being exclusive limits the variety of available goodies, so she may be perfectly fine with “just hooking up” and enjoying you one night at a time.